moves std::shared_ptrs to a new implementation
Advantages:
- you can dereference a weak_ptr directly. This will obviously segfault on a nullptr deref if it's expired.
- this is useful to avoid the .lock() hell where we are 100% sure the pointer _should_ be valid. (and if it isn't, it should throw.)
- weak_ptrs are still valid while the SP is being destroyed.
- reasoning: while an object (e.g. CWindow) is being destroyed, its `weak_ptr self` should be accessible (the sp is still alive, and so is CWindow), but it's not because by stl it's already expired (to prevent resurrection)
- this impl solves it differently. w_p is expired, but can still be dereferenced and used. Creating `s_p`s is not possible anymore, though.
- this is useful in destructors and callbacks.
`lastBoxLocal`'s size should be the actual popup's size instead of the cursor
rectangle's size. Also, the rectangle position is now relative to the popup.
(Actually fixes#5255 imho.)
One thing #3922 missed was handling focus held by buttons. Let's hope I get
it right this time.
